today has been such a whirlwind...but, to get to the point...my grandma passed away. to be honest, i've been imagining this day for a long time...even hoping for it to come so that my family (mainly my mom) could enjoy life more, but, it still was difficult to accept. it just all came so sudden. some deaths are anticipated...the family knows it's coming, but others, like my grandma's come out of nowhere. those are the worst because it just leaves such a sense of regret and a lot of "if only.."
my grandma was completely fine this morning, according to my mom..i woke up late. when i woke up, the house was empty. i thought everything was fine...even walked my dog and anticipated a fun day with my friends. i called my mom to ask where they were and all she told me was that she was at the doctors for my grandma..which is typical, so i didn't think much. i called her again to tell her that i was going out with my friends, but she told me that i couldn't go because i had to take my brother to the dentist since my grandma was in the hospital. anyhow, i ended up going to eat anyways just because i figured the dentists had to eat lunch too. so after everything, i drove my brother and i to the hospital. my grandma had been admitted and transferred from the ER to a bed already. i saw her in great distress and pain vomiting up yellowish brown liquid. the doctor comes in to tell us that she has a small bowel obstruction, that she will need a tube inserted into her intestines to open up the passage. before he left, he told us that it wasn't a serious case.
my grandma was very crazy. she was in so much pain that she wasn't listening to anybody. she was very resistant to everyone and wanted nothing more than her pain meds. she continued to vomit a lot after the tube was inserted, but she was conscious. after we all ate, i went home to shower to switch shifts with my mom. i came back and saw my grandma asleep so i was using the computer. she seemed to toss and turn a lot in pain...so i made sure that her IV wouldn't move..but i dont know, maybe i wasn't paying close enough attn, but i didn't see that she had pulled part of her tube out already. the nurse came in and saw and i helped him re-insert it for her...during this whole time, she was still alive...i felt like she was half conscious though because throughout this whole time, her eyes were shut. during the re-insertion, she made a little gargle sound and then stopped resisting...she seemed to be asleep sitting up with her mouth opened...so i didn't think much. i just resumed using my computer, but i remember looking at her and thinking how scary and lifeless she looked. i believe at this time, she was gone already...
the nurse then comes in again and then attempts to take bp. i am not really paying attn at this time because i still think she's aslp. the nurse then calls her, "nai nai, nai nai.." and i see him trying to get a pulse everywhere...i STILL think she's asleep so i try to wake her..."nai nai!" i call continuously. there's no response..the charge nurse then runs out and i then realize that probably somethings wrong, but i never suspect death. i'm too scared to. the charge nurse comes in and they discuss and calls a code blue. at this point, i'm like "OH SHIT." all these nurses rush in and they all stare at me. i feel like they're judging me...like it's my fault. i tell them, "i thought she was asleep," but i feel like they're staring at me like i'm lying. they urge me to go outside, and at this point, i'm hyperventilating...i call my mom and i choke out that my grandma is being resuscitated. i see ekgs being ran and there is a signal, so i think she's alive...so i calm down a little. however, the charge nurse comes out and tells me that they tried everything...but she's gone....
i know this is a bit analytical...and impartial, but i'm just trying to get down everything i remember...i remember how impersonal the nurses were. "how were you related to the patient?" they ask. "PATIENT"? Excuse me, but my grandma just died. she's not just a "patient," she's a dead human being with a past. ugh. and stop staring at me like i should have known.
anyhow, the doctor suspect she probably died of heart failure, or some sort of pneumonia along with her small bowel obstruction.
i guess it's better for her to be with Jesus. i mean, i KNOW it's better. its just the fact that there was so much i could have said to her...and it was all so sudden. wtheck? it is better for her because she won't be suffering any more...my mom can enjoy herself, and i dont know...there is a sense of relief....yet, it's all so sudden, and i just feel really numb myself. i dont really know what to do or what's going to happen...
i'm just tired. i'm glad my dog is with me. she's eating lol...and it's 3:24 am...crazy little baby...